Pronouns, Nouns, and Name Preference General

[Vaporwave]

There are users on Chao Island that no longer identify as the gender they held when they originally joined the forum. The point of this thread is to give an opportunity for such users to state their pronoun, noun, and name preferences. I ask for this thread to please be stickied given its sensitive nature.

For anyone's that cis but has gender-nonconforming preferences, you're welcomed to post here too. Also, anyone that's gender-apathetic and simply wants to state so, you're free to do that as well.

It would also be appreciated for everyone that doesn't have the need to post preferences to post in here to confirm that they're aware of the preferences of others as posts are made here. The same goes for people that need to post their preferences.

For anyone posting preferences, if there's also something important that's gender-related that you wish to state, please feel free to do so.

If your preferences change at anytime, please repost your preferences rather than edit your previous post so more people are likely to see your updates.

As a final note before I state my own preferences, please, do NOT turn this thread into a gender debate. Discussing gender experiences and things of that nature are completely fine though.

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Name: Vapor or Blake

• Anyone can call me Vapor and if we're friends I'm cool with you using Blake instead.

Pronoun Set #1: He/Him/His/Himself/He's

• When it comes to pronouns that are standard in everyday usage, I prefer he/him the most. I'm already commonly referred to as she/her, and I'm really only okay with that when it comes to close friends and family. She/her is very personal to me, so please, get into the habit of referring to me as he/him instead. I prefer he/him over singular they as I don't like the genericness of it. I also find it/its to be offensive when in reference to me.

Pronoun Set #2: Cae/Caer/Caers/Caerself/Cae's (any other c-based sets also work but this is my favorite variation)
*Pronunciation: The cae set is meant to sound like say, and then sayer, sayers, sayerself, and say's.

• For anyone that wants to go the extra mile, using this set would make feel really happy. I feel that they really capture my gender identity.

Nouns: Masculine-Associated Vocabulary and Non-Binary-Associated Vocabulary

• In correspondence to my preference of he/him, I prefer masculine-associated nouns. I don't like generic words, so please call me a man rather than just a person when the context is appropriate. If anyone is familiar with vocabulary that's meant to give off non-binary vibes, those would be deeply appreciated.

[Pumpkinium]

im posting for both me n skonia

names: uni or skonia

we don't care which of us is referred to, even if one of us is asleep and the other isn't. we're highly used to responding for each other, so it doesn't matter. i personally do not like my real name at all and will not appreciate being called it at all, so just refer as Uni/skonia

gender and pronouns: (she/he/they) i VAGUELY identify as female, by that I mean im willing to be a lady and i generally choose that for those who ask, but i honestly don't feel like trying to. so I don't mind if I'm referred as he or they instead.

skonia literally gives 0 hecks to what he is or is referred to so no problem there

(good topic idea mana!)

[Sable]

i am sable and i like she/her pronouns

[Lamby]

Edit: I'm now living as Brandi Alexis. So use she/her, and if for some reason that is too difficult to remember, there is always using my username in the third person.

[Tsui]

name: Reachel, Rea
pronounced Rachel and ray respectively, no I didn't choose it, my mother gave me the name and I love it, so shut up if you were thinking things

pronouns: he, she, they
I'm genderfluid so how comfortable I am with certain pronouns depends on the day. sadly it's not like I can telepathically reveal what gender I am every day

nouns: masculine, neuter
prince, waiter, actor, etc. just don't comment on how much of a "pretty girl" I am, and we're good. also do not EVER call me a woman. ever.


06/13/15 update: my gender's lately been stabilizing basically, and I consider myself (dysphoric) bigender most of the time now. my pronouns are still he/she/they but they feels more correct at this point in time. so if you're used to calling me she or he, don't worry; if you don't know me but have read this please use they. also I prefer Rea to Reachel, so please use that.

01/03/16 update: only call me Rea / they, them

[Nano]

Do not post unless you are going to be on topic. This is a warning to everyone.

[Pentagrami]

demiboy
he/they pronouns
very cool

[Crazo3077]

name: crazo or matt or matthew or whatever
pronouns: indifferent
descriptors: alien or not from earth

[Mephilesfan1]

Name: Raven, but I go by Skylar as my Genderfluid name. So please call me skylar <3
Pronouns: well im genderfluid so it depends on the day but I typically go by they/their/them. I can't really tell what genders lol be feeling like that day, but usually in most cases I feel like a boy so I go by he/him/his. But if it's easier for you, you can do they/their/them. I won't be offended if you forget to call me skylar c: I know it will take time.

[wic.]

I really don't like labels much at all so I never really thought of what I'd call my gender identity before this topic but I'm guessing technically demiboy (although I really loathe that term, it just helps me convey myself better) would work. Idk, my gender (and any dysphoria I feel) is much more internal, I don't really need people to recognize me as anything other than a boy because I don't talk about it because I don't feel the need to. So yeah, just stick to my male pronouns like usual.

[CandraArborshate]

Hey there,
The name is Gwen, I'm almost 18 years old born female.
Though I identify as non-binary/genderfluid.
I have no true prefered pronouns, he/him/his/himself and she/her/her/herself are most commonly used.
I also have no problem with the they/their/their/theirselfs either.
I most of the time don't feel like any gender at all, and some weeks/months I feel female/male.
So if you are not sure what to call me, don't be afraid to ask you can never go wrong with my pronouns.
I'm really mild and not easily offended, and always willing to give advice.

So long story short, I'm a silly little potato who likes to talk :)

[Tobi]

I don't really care about pronouns, I just think xe and such are ridiculous. You can call me any promouns you want, just not xe and such.

I was born a male, and I accept this gender as a label, specially because it's easier to be socially acceptable that way because people are obnoxious. I don't really strongly feel any gender at all to be honest. I don't really care about genders until a certain degree. Like, I love girl clothes so much, but since society doesn't think it's acceptable I avoid wearing it. Along with the fact that it wouldn't fit my chubby male body anyway. I don't find it completely necessary to wear it, so it's easy tp avoid the trouble, just a little unfortunate since it limits me to only wear the little guy clothing that I think is acceptable to wear.

Which sometimes makes me wish I was born a girl because it's acceptable for them to wear any clothes they want :P Oh well.

[Tulip Monster]

I'm a boy named Tulip/Chris and I like he/him pronouns. I don't really mind sharing a female-assigned body with my other half that much but it'd be nice to experience a male-assigned one.

[royalbite]

im a borderboy (gender affected by BPD -- its not well known, mostly a non-binary gender used as bordergender i think? its been a while since i last saw the post where it was coined), 99.9% of the time i just identify as wholly male though because. well idk it gets by well enough? yeah
he/him/his pronouns or xe/xim/xis pronouns
nouns are weird, i usually prefer masculine nouns but theres a few where i prefer the feminine alternative much more for some reason? or the non-binary alternative. Who Kno what thats about
glad to see theres a thread on this though!

[Kausa]

I'm Ivy/Ivyann and you can use female pronouns for me.
But I was actually posting to say I will try my darnedest to get your pronouns right but I am sorry if I mess up!
What I usually do is use the gender people have set on their profile, and if they dont have one set then I use they/them.
So just a preemptive apology for any messing up I do, if I do it! Anyone that knows me knows I wouldn't do it to be rude.

[Lamby]

^Don't worry, I wouldn't think ill of you. :o

Edit: See original post

[royalbite]

kausa and batty, i hope you don't mind me saying, but i think it would be best to just say you use she/her pronouns than say girl/female pronouns, because there are a lot of people out there (non-binary and otherwise) who use she/her pronouns, even primarily, but aren't girls ^^; it's clear to see what you mean of course since its what we grew up with, but just the wording isn't very good for the trans community. but again sorry if i said too much there *sweats*

oh btw i forgot to mention in my last post, you can call me eren :D

[Manchurian]

Or you can respect what they want to call themselves

[Vaporwave]

^ I think you're missing the point of Eren's post.

You see, it's not really correct to refer to she/her pronouns as female or feminine, as it then enforces that anyone that prefers or is okay with those pronouns are inherently female then, which isn't true at all.

Same thing goes for calling he/his pronouns male or masculine.

What would be a better way to refer to those pronouns is calling she/her pronouns feminine-associated, as it then would imply that those pronouns tend to be associated with femininity within societal reception but without implying that they're inherently feminine.

[Kausa]

Oops sorry!
I didn't even think of that.

I like how you guys are handling this, as opposed to like tumblr where if you mess up on accident you get death threats :C

[royalbite]

^ it's alright! thanks mana for explaining it further, i am not too good with words when it comes to this stuff. (i understand what you mean about tumblr though, some parts of it are good and informing but others....well. like you said. >> shifty. very shifty)

[Lamby]

Saying that actually has nothing to do with what I was raised with, just to be clear. I'm a trans girl in my twenties, so I understand your point.

[Manchurian]

Can you guys help me? People are telling me being trans is a mental disorder and I don't know what to tell them.

[Vaporwave]

Being transgender isn't a medical disorder in general, as saying such would then imply that their identity is invalid because "it's all in their head", and if they were to be "treated" for being trans, they would no longer be of that identity.

What is a disorder that is often related to being transgender, is dysphoria. Dysphoria is broken down into gender dysphoria and sex dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is the painful rejection experienced when an individual is identified as a gender that they don't identify as (being misgendered). Gender dysphoria is also referred to as social dysphoria. Sex dysphoria is the painful rejection experienced when an individual feels that the sexed characteristics of their body do not correspond to their gender. Sex dysphoria is also referred to as bodily dysphoria. When it comes to sex dysphoria, usually people would then be interested in seeking out doctors to be prescribed or recommended for hormones, surgeries, etc, as in their case these treatments are meant to help ease their dysphoria.

As a final note, keep in mind that not all transgender and other gender-variant people may experience any form of dysphoria or discomfort to any degree.

[Manchurian]

How can you be trans and not have dysphoria? Aren't you just faking it if you do that?